Would you be able to dance in public without being drunk or high? If you can’t, then there is a long way to go for you to be at peace with yourself. Is there a fear that people around might get jealous of how free-spirited and happy you are or it’s just that you are ashamed of the way you dance?
The world is cruel and will bait you into submitting to its definitions of success and failure. And there you give away to this byte-sized society living a life of pretension, controlling you and stopping you to live a life congruent with your values. And what does it do to you? You start to question yourself and this brings in turbulence, vulnerability, and negativity.
The sad part is that some of our minds like to dwell on this negativity. And such minds are not at all rare. It’s very easy for our minds to be in that negative state for a long time. And social media most often than not doesn’t help in that. You might be looking at other’s lives feeling bad about yourself or you might be engaging with negativity, but in either of these cases, the algorithm feeds you more and more of what you want to look at making you spiral into a deeper slump.
A common thing that haunts this generation is this feeling of self-pity or in some cases self-blame. Often during difficult situations in our life, we combine feelings of worthlessness, remorse, and regret within ourselves which destroys our self-confidence and puts us in limbo. This feeling of self-despair is a natural trait but hurts us in a big way by slowly eating into our minds leading to depression and anxiety.
Unresolved conflicts have always been relationship destroyers. People hold grudges thinking it’s punishing the other person but in reality, it only reduces your life. It takes a lot of effort. Just think of how much time you have wasted just being angry at someone. It’s not worth it and disrupts your inner equilibrium.
So what’s the solution? First of all, understand that you own the problem and you are the one who has to solve it. Friends and family can support you and you can also seek expert help if needed but it’s largely on you to bring your mind back to a place where it needs to be. And for that, you need to declutter your mind and be in love with yourself. We all talk about investments in stocks, mutual funds, cryptocurrencies but what about self-investment? Taking care of yourself by exercising, eating clean food, taking a break from your daily work, and spending time with your family and friends can make you comfortable and help you regain your peace.
Start working out and it can teach you discipline and patience like few other things do. Journaling can help you in self-reflection by making you pay attention to your inner state and process your thoughts. Stop wasting time thinking if things were different or trying to change others. Take responsibility for your choices and acknowledge what you control and what you don’t. You can try getting yourself away from social media for a while to make it easier to reconnect with the real world and detox yourself away from the vicious cycle of social comparison.
As time goes by, you will realize that achieving inner peace is a simple everyday practice but not so simple. It takes a bit of effort on your part to have that awareness and change certain aspects of your unhealthy habits and lifestyle to help your mind move from a state of turbulence to a state of tranquility.